I just had a conversation with a friend. She was asking me kung paano raw ba masasabing napatawad mo na ang isang tao. I told her na masasabi mong napatawad ang isang tao kapag wala ka ng galit. Kapag kaya mo na siyang pakitunguhan without bitterness. Yung tanggap mo na uli siya bilang part ng buhay mo. And then she asked“Kelangan talaga part pa din siya, Ate?” and it got me thinking, “oo nga noh?” so I answered“Hindi rin naman. Kasi hindi mo naman makakalimutan yung ginawa niya e. Pero yung tanggap mo na’ng nangyari at hindi mo na siya kinukutya o kinagagalitan.”
She asked me again if it is possible that you have forgiven someone but still, it hurts. YES. It is. For me, it is because people can forgive but they seldom forget. What hurts is not the presence of that someone who hurt you but the vibrant memory of what s/he had done to you. Erase the memory? Cannot be. I don’t believe in “FORGETTING”. Yes. I believe that it is on how you learn to live with that pain until it hurts no more. Acceptance it is. It is when you finally accepted that the damage had been done and the only cure is to let it be there. It happened. It is learning to live with the fact that once, you’re hurt and there’s nothing to do but to move. But of course, it takes a while and most of the times, if not always, it takes a long time.
“Sana i-heal na ni God ito.” She added. I responded with “Heal yourself and God will help you as well.” Binigyan tayo ng kakayahan ng Diyos para gamitin ito. Naniniwala akong kaya tayo binigyan ng Diyos ng mga katangiang meron tayo ay para magamit yun at matuto mula dito. Hindi maaaring ipagpasaDiyos mo na lamang ang lahat. Para saan pa at mayroon tayong iba’t ibang kakayanan, sitwasyon sa buhay at kung anuman kung wala naman din tayong gagawin? IpagpasaDiyos. I think God won’t be happy. Let us do our part and keep the faith. Consequently, with our actions and His guidance, we’ll be fine.
And when the wound is healing, don’t scratch it. Let it heal.
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